Beyond the Last Page of the Romance Novel

Love is complicated and powerful. We all seek it and what to hold onto it for a lifetime

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But it can be found and then lost in a blink of an eye.

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Why do some unions last and others—like a falling star, burning bright then are gone. Fizzled without a whimper or a final protest or blown to smithereens with a painful explosion that destroy all including good memories that leaves all involved bruised, heartbroken, bitter and afraid to try again.

Recently I read an article titled ‘Is Love Written in the Stars’ and a book called ‘The 5 Love Languages ‘and as a writer of romances and a believer in love at first sight, soul mates and enduring love I pondered the concepts presented and decided to find out what else was being toted about love.

The information pool is huge. So many have so much to say—experts, participants in relationships, the lovelorn and the brokenhearted.  And yet relationships crash and burn regularly.

Have these ‘gurus’ got it so wrong or are we just not taking any notice of what these people are saying, advising us, counseling us and writing books for us.

I ponder this—as a statistic, divorced after almost 20 years of marriage and still single after 20 more. I still believe in love—love at first sight, enduring lifetime love and exquisite lusty love.  One day it may come my way again. I have had plenty of time to reflect on my failure to have an enduring marriage, to hold onto that hope, that love, and that potential for the future.

With a daughter about to get married I muse on the subject and I am filled with hope that my daughter has found her true love and will be able to treasure it, grow it and enrich it for the rest of her life. It won’t be luck, or wishing or expecting, it will be hard work, giving 100%, sharing, and compromising to mention just a few.

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Watch for my next post as I explore this very human condition of what our hero and heroine have to do after the last page of the romance novel has been turned.